Church is a pretty great thing, you get to gather in one place and see tons of other people who share your faith. You get to have fellowship and hear sermons every week to help further your relationship with God. With all that being said though, the church, as we think of it, is not necessary for you to be a Christian, you can never go even once and still be very much saved. Not only that, you could be closer to Jesus than most of the people that do go to church every Sunday.
The church has become an idol to some extent in modern society. We treat it like it has always been there and if you aren't part of it you should be ashamed. Some would even go as far to say if you don't go to church on Sunday you aren't even Christian. In our minds the church has become a major aspect of what it is to be a Christian, which makes sense since so many people are raised thinking that way. It is a good thing to have a place for everyone to gather and be together but it has been taken way too far and actually caused a lot of problems in the true church. We get so focused on the building that many of us forget, the church of Christ is made of people, and has nothing to do with the building.
Even if the church buildings didn't exist, the true church would still very much exist.
They are convenient places to gather but that is where it ends, in most cases they are just huge wastes of money that could be going to good causes. We are all connected through Christ and we need to have fellowship with each other but we can do that anywhere. It could be our homes or it could be outside somewhere, it doesn't really matter so long as we gather with fellow Christians, but it has nothing to do with the church building itself.
We are very attached to the church buildings but honestly I think they have done more harm than good. They make our divisions stronger with all the many denominations having their own buildings. They have become an idol of sorts to many Christians and maintain many false converts. People that know nothing of Jesus go to church on Sunday and think that makes them genuine Christians. As I mentioned before they are also a huge drain on the donations given by the people going just to maintain and pay for the building. In many ways I believe we would be better off just meeting up in any random public place, it would certainly be cheaper and cause less division.
The buildings are simply part of a system we have created in society that we have grown very used to. That system has a lot of flaws that we really need to try and be aware of because they are creating some big problems. Never feel like you are somehow less of a Christian because you don't go to church. Make sure you have friends and family that are Christian, don't simply isolate yourself, but don't let anyone tell you that the building is somehow pivotal to your faith. There will come a day when the entire system we know falls apart and there aren't any church buildings anymore. God's church will still be here.
Since the day I became a Christian, I have struggled with keeping my interests. I am not talking about the obviously sinful things, I mean the hobbies that weren't wrong but people treated as a problem. People never stop talking about putting God first, and they are right, but they have a tendency to take it so far that you feel like you have to be on your face praying 24/7 or you are barely even a Christian. This is not the right mindset to have and that is what I want to talk about right now.
We all have hobbies and interests. Some of us like sports while others like video games, it doesn't really matter and the options are limitless. Plenty of us have careers we are pursuing and trying to do our best in. All of us want to have enough money to feel comfortable and safe, and so we prioritize money.
None of these things are automatically bad by themselves. There isn't anything actually sinful about any of these things but that won't stop people for making you feel guilty about them. Hobbies are fine, so long as they don't control your entire life and you still keep God as your focus while you do them. The same goes for your career, keep God the focus of your life and it is fine to prioritize your job. And money is just a means to an end, needing it is not the same as loving it, and I wouldn't do anything wrong just to get it. The bible talks about the love of money being evil, but that doesn't mean we can't do everything we can to earn enough to provide for our families. There is no biblical requirement to be poor and avoid money.
The reason I bring these things up is because I have met plenty of people who will treat you like a sinner if you focus on any of these things. They act as if when you do normal life things you aren't putting God first and you need to fix it. If you took it all to its logical conclusion, you would live in a box hiding from the world praying all day, occasionally surfacing to preach the gospel before going back to praying. You see, unless you are doing something that puts your direct focus on God, you are doing it wrong. At least if you have this sort of mindset, I am sure feeding the poor would work too but you have no money and you aren't Jesus so more likely than not you would need fed as compared to feeding anyone. It is a pretty scary mindset to have, because pretty much no matter what you are doing, you will feel some sort of guilt. Luckily, this is not what God actually wants for anyone.
The reality is that God made this world for us, even in it's fallen state we were always meant to enjoy it. We were also meant to focus on him, which is as much for us as it is for him. God is amazing and is always with us, he will never let you down. Really, it is only us that let him down, so what is the balance we are meant to have? The answer is to simply live Godly lives, be the example God wants you to be. In anything and everything you do, be exactly the person you know you need to be. God is the focus for me no matter where I go because I never want to disappoint him and I always want to do his work. I have given the gospel to people in every area of my life. When I am playing video games, I tell people about Jesus, the same goes for when I go to work. When I make money, I use it to provide for my family exactly as the bible tells me to do. None of these things are evil, when they are done right they are all just more tools for doing God's work and enjoying the world that God made for us in the first place.
Now there are things that we make more important than God in our lives and those things are genuine issues, but don't let anyone make you feel like a sinner for living your life. We can all do better in some way, and we should, but that should never be taken to the extent that some people take it. Enjoy your lives and do all in your power to be a true follower of Christ. Pray often, and don't change into a different person when it is convenient, always put God first and everything will be okay.
This is a topic I hesitate to write about because I know very few will agree with me but I believe it is important. Everyone has basically come to accept that ordination by other people is a requirement for becoming a pastor. I honestly believe the answer is no, and I am going to try and explain why.
Now the reason people think you need to be ordained is because of several verses that can be interpreted that way. I don't believe these verses are saying exactly what people think they are. Common understanding is that the elders of a church have to basically approve of your becoming a pastor. With how it works right now no one will really respect you as a pastor unless this happens, but in reality they only have the power to confirm your call. God is the one who actually calls someone to be a pastor, just as he did with the prophets, apostles and everyone else. We all have a calling from God, no one else has to give us that calling for it to be legitimate. The only power really given to us is how to discern if someone is truly called or not. We know what to expect from a false teacher, therefore we can tell if someone is wrong when they say they are called to be a shepherd. We can also look at all the qualifications for a pastor and determine if someone fits all of those requirements. It is not up to the elders in the first place, a pastor can exist outside of the general church system, but we can all figure out if they are actually called or not.
One of the main reasons I decided this had to be the case is the simple fact that all throughout the bible, God called people to be prophets and kings. The people around them in just about every single case were against God's choice. This taught me one simple thing, we aren't really that reliable at determining these sorts of things. This is only confirmed when you think of how many women have been “ordained” as pastors, not to mention all the Joel Olsteens in the world. We are very good at allowing people that obviously aren't called to be pastors, to be pastors. This is a fact that just can't be ignored, there is just no chance that God would actually leave it up to us on something so important but that is how things are treated.
Another issue is the way we think of things. We like to believe that there is a church system like ours all across the world. The reality is different though, there are plenty of places where there isn't a group of elders to lay their hands on you. God can raise leaders anywhere because they are needed everywhere. Men are going to be called in and while we can confirm it, I don't believe that they need that confirmation to do what they are called to do. We have to remember that the entire world does not work the way we are used to. With that in mind, these types of things will always be easier to understand. It is also worth remembering the flaws of our system, people go to bible college and get to call themselves pastors. I guarantee you many of the people going to school for it are not called to be pastors, some turn out to not even be Christian.
The fact is God calls us to whatever our role in the church is, no one else gets to decide these things. All we have to do is everything in our power to be on the path that God has set for us to best serve him. We can't take any of that authority for ourselves, because it is all his. All we can do is confirm things based off of what God has told us in his word. Pastors are one of the most important roles because they are the leaders in the church, but even with them, it is still up to God. As long as they are preaching the truth and meet the standards that God has set for them we have no reason to stop them. I am confident there are many pastors out there that never fulfilled their calling because no one ever let them step up to their role and that is something we need to fix immediately.
For further studying reference: 1 Timothy 5:22, Acts 14:23, Acts 6:6, Acts 13:3, 1Timothy 4:14.
Abortion is one of the worst things happening on this earth today, there isn't any real debate over that. The people that support abortion are either clueless about what it really is because they choose to stay oblivious, or they are just willfully evil, knowing that it is murder. Somehow though, there is debate about this among people that call themselves Christian and so I am going to talk about exactly what the bible has to say on the matter.
Now the most obvious thing is that God commands us never to murder anyone. This is very clear and I think everyone understands it. The issue comes in when we start pretending that certain thing aren't murder. Life absolutely begins at conception, this isn't an extreme thing to think and no one has the right to take that life away aside from God himself. We waste a lot of time debating on women's rights but that isn't even the issue. What matters is that the baby is alive too and its rights are being violated completely. All you need to read is the law in Exodus to understand exactly how God sees a baby still inside the womb. The baby has equal rights to a full grown man and they were punished for murder if someone caused a woman to lose her baby. Something you should know, is God doesn't make any distinction on how far along the woman's pregnancy is for this law to matter.
God knew and loved us even in the womb. He carefully designed all of us in his image without a single exception. All of us are priceless, nothing on this Earth is more important than a human life and that applies to every single baby that dies for our convenience. There are few things that are more evil than hurting an innocent baby in a place it should feel absolutely safe. There is no excuse and there never will be for hurting a baby. No Christian should even remotely consider abortion an option, it is obviously wrong in the bible.
Let's also not forget that Jesus was once a baby, and he was God the entire time, even in the womb. It is a crazy thought but in our society there is a solid chance we would have tried to kill Jesus before his body even fully developed. If Jesus was always Jesus, I think it is safe to say that a baby is always alive at the second of conception. As I said before, we have absolutely no right to kill a baby, especially when you consider that 99% of abortions are done for convenience.
Oh, and since I know people are going to bring this up, the death penalty and abortion are not the same thing. Justice is not murder, someone on death row earned that sentence. Abortion is the killing of a completely innocent person. It honestly amazes me that anyone even begins to treat them as equal but no, they aren't. One is a criminal that has chosen to do horrifying things to others, the other is a baby that has had no chance to make any choice and is right where they are supposed to be.
Also, don't believe the lie that it can somehow save the mom to have an abortion. 100% of the time it puts her at more risk health wise, it doesn't save anyone. It simply guarantees the death of the baby and hurts the mom physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Ectopic pregnancies, which do risk the mother's life and need to be handled, do not require an abortion. They are a rare and tragic circumstance that have a different surgery used to save the mother without an intention to end any life.
They always seem to be coming up with new excuses on why it is okay to murder a baby, but none of them actually have any merit. It is always something stupid like they have a defect, even though they are still developing and it probably won't even still be there when they are born. The stupidest one is they won't have a good life because they will be poor. I promise you, even if people are poor, they still want to be alive. It doesn't even matter if the pregnancy started through some sort of sexual assault, the baby is still innocent and doesn't deserve death. This doesn't help the mother. If we want real justice, we should go after that guy, not the innocent kid. I could go on but just don't fall for any of the lies, no one is being helped with abortion, it is just murder.
If you have been involved in any abortion, you can repent, trust in our Lord Jesus and be forgiven. Use your testimony and become active in stopping others from doing the same sin.
Disclaimer: this article is obviously going to be discussing sex, but not in detail. Still, it's recommended for adults only.
I am going to start this off with an extremely wild concept for most people: women like sex. Now let's talk about why that matters and what we are doing wrong, pretty much across the planet.
There are a lot of misconceptions about sex that mostly originate from Hollywood, but also from the church in general. The main one is that women have no interest in sex, it's just something they do because their husbands want to do it. In most cases, it's used like a bargaining chip to control the husband but almost never are women portrayed to actually want it themselves. When they are actually shown to want it, it's always this fast paced and seemingly passionate stuff, and of course, never with a married couple. This type of thing is almost always something sinful and completely fake. This brings me to the next misconception we need to talk about, the pleasure of women as it relates to sex.
Sex is a very pleasurable thing made for both men and women, in marriage of course. For men this is easy to figure out because things go rather fast for them, but women are different than that. It isn't just a fast thing for women, but in the end it is actually more pleasurable if anything, and that is exactly as it should be. Far too many couples are treating sex like it's supposed to be a fast thing meant only to please the man in the relationship. It might take a little more time and some extra effort, but it is worth doing so that the two can connect in a way no one else can. Sex is all about connecting to each other and learning, becoming closer and even sacrificing things for the other person. That might mean time or breaking out of your comfort zone and trying something new, but make no mistake, sex is for both of you. It is absolutely worth it to do everything you can to please each other. Which, of course, leads me into the next misconception, that sex is only for having kids.
While having kids is an obvious and important aspect of sex, and what it is primarily for, that isn't all it is for. As I mentioned before, sex is meant to bring us together and make us closer than anything else can but it's more then that. Sex is also about pleasure, doing things to make each other feel good and that is how God designed it. It isn't a coincidence that sex is a pleasurable thing, that is exactly as it should be, but people have this weird idea that sex is sinful unless it's for reproduction. It has its roots in the idea that sex is a dirty thing and to do it makes you impure, so it can only possibly be for having kids, and aside from that it's bad. This is very obviously wrong when you consider the fact that there is an entire book about sex in the Bible.
God would never tell you to sin and yet before the fall he told us to be fruitful and multiply, back in Genesis, a time without sin. You don't lose your purity when you have sex, you lose your purity when you choose to have sex outside of marriage. Anything in marriage pretty much goes (aside from a few things that really should be obvious but seemingly aren't). That is an issue worthy of its own article though. The fact is, in marriage everything about sex is pure and good, exactly as God intended it, so don't be afraid to do it just for the sake of pleasure and connection. I am not even able to have kids anymore, it doesn't mean that I am not allowed anywhere near my wife. And another thing, women, don't be afraid to push your husbands to do more. It is not wrong to want what you should have been getting all along sexually. He is not going to leave you or go for something else just because he has to spend some extra time with you, it will be good for him too in the long run!
Most of these misconceptions are left over traditions from places like the Catholic church, or ideas we have gotten from Hollywood. We need to smarter and not let these things lie to us, sex is a good and moral thing in marriage and it's something to look forward to. Don't make it something dirty or just something for the sake of reproduction, because it's more than that and you are depriving yourself of the full experience when you think that way. I promise you, God wants sex to be an awesome thing for both people in the relationship, so just have fun with it and enjoy God's gift to the fullest!
There is one thing that almost every Christian I know of is afraid to say; You aren't a Christian. I think this is something we all need to get past because it is hurting the Church big time
I know it can be a scary thing to tell someone they aren't saved, especially if they think they have been for a long time. Unfortunately, it still needs to be done, for their sake and for the sake of anyone else that might come to Christ. I genuinely believe that the majority of people that call themselves Christian today aren't real converts, and that is a truly terrifying thought. Millions of people going around saying they are Christian while living like complete sinners with no real faith in Jesus at all. They aren't saved, and no one they know is getting saved either. If anything they are turning further away from the faith because these false converts don't act any differently from them. False converts can only bring in more false converts and we need to do something about this.
As a general rule, these people are raised in the church and so they think they are fine. If not, they may have received a false or partial gospel which are honestly just as bad. Whatever the reason may be, they make up the majority of the Church as we know it. As long as we are afraid to tell these people they are in trouble they will stay that way. Now the obvious question is, Andrew, how do you know these people aren't saved? Every case is complicated, but there are two things I look for in everyone that are the main signs someone isn't actually saved. The first is more obvious, they don't actually know or understand the gospel. If someone is telling you they are earning their way to heaven through their good works or they don't actually know what Jesus did for them and who he is, odds are high they aren't saved. The second is their intentions behind everything that they do. It is one thing to still be a sinner, it is another to not care at all when you sin. We should always be striving to be better, to be closer to Jesus in anything we do. We are still going to fail at times, but we should never just be fine with it. If someone is happily living in sin, even actively searching for it, the odds are high they aren't saved. If you combine these two things then it's basically a guarantee.
Regardless of how hard it is, we need to be willing to tell these people, in love and with tact, that they aren't saved. We need to witness to them just like we would anyone else, kindly telling them the gospel. It is going to be hard. There is no one harder to reach then someone who has already convinced themselves they are fine. There is a solid chance that anything you say will fall on deaf ears, that they will just continue as they are. Another possibility is that they will straight up walk away from the church and never come back. This might seem bad but it is preferable to how things are now, better they be honest non-believers than fake Christians. Let's not forget the third and best possibility though, they come to Christ and put their full trust and faith in Jesus. They become genuine converts that will be eternally grateful that someone cared enough to tell them the truth instead of letting them stay as they are in fear.
I hope in the end we get more people to genuinely come to Christ than the other possibilities, but we need to understand that the way to heaven is narrow. Jesus told us that few would be going there and he also explained how to spot a false convert in Matthew 7. He didn't tell us these things for no reason. I am sorry to tell you but most people are going to walk away from being Christian, and in reality they weren't one of us from the start. They were just putting on a show, sometimes a convincing show as they themselves aren't even aware they're unsaved. But let's not be afraid to do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said. Because we love these people, we need to tell them the truth on where they stand so they can have every chance possible to truly put their trust in Christ.
I need to talk about this because I find that people are walking around with a lot of guilt they don't deserve. When other people sin, it is not your fault.
There is a sin problem in our world, regardless of who you talk to, they are a sinner. This also means their thoughts can be sinful and you have absolutely no control over it. When they sin, even if they blame you, that does not make it your fault. While it is possible to sin ourselves by leading someone else to it, that does not apply to when you are doing nothing wrong. An example of that type of sin is drinking alcohol next to a drunk and things like that. (1 Corinthians 8:7-13) On the other hand, if you are someone dressed perfectly modest and someone chooses to lust after you, that isn't even slightly your fault. In fact, even if you dressed horribly, (as in hardly dressed at all,) and they lust, it is still their fault, not yours, because they chose to sin. You have an issue as well if you are dressing that way, but that is a separate thing to be addressed all on its own. If you're wondering if you somehow are at fault for their sin just because of your clothes, you're not. no matter what, it is still on them completely if they choose to sin. It is always a choice and we can't blame ourselves for what others do, or blame others for what we do.
I have found this is something people don't understand very well and I want everyone to really get it. There are so many women out there feeling dirty for the actions of guilty men around them when they didn't do anything wrong. There are pastors teaching that God will punish your kids for your sin despite being innocent themselves and it's just craziness to me. We are only accountable for our own sin and that isn't going to change. Don't blame yourself when someone else does something wrong, and don't hold it against them. It is alright to be upset when someone wrongs you, but always be willing to forgive them and don't let it fester and turn into something more. Like I said before, there is a sin problem in the world and people need to hear the gospel, no matter how much they wrong us. So let the blame fall where it belongs and treat them as you would anyone else, no matter how depraved they may be. (Romans 5:20-21)
Another aspect of this that needs to be talked about is the reverse of this problem; people making excuses to sin because of people around them. It does not matter if most guys have a lust issue, you do not get an excuse to lust. Just because many women have a tendency to gossip a lot, does not mean that you get to gossip just because you're a woman. I don't care how many people around you are sinning, it is not an excuse to do it yourself. I hear it far too much in the church that it is just a given you will sin a certain way just because of your surroundings. The best thing you can do for yourself and for God is to stop making excuses and be the person God wants you to be. Don't worry about what others do, don't worry about how many people tell you it isn't worth trying to change. Just do whatever God expects of you, no matter how hard it may seem, to the absolute best of your ability.
The best way I can summarize everything I tried to explain here is this; The things that other people do have no bearing on the choices you ultimately make. You are not guilty of the sin of people around you, and nothing physically forced on you can count against you as sin. At the same time, you are not excused of your actions because other people push you toward sin. We will all be held accountable for our actions in the end, and God is not going to excuse you because people told you it was okay. I hope this brings you some peace and understanding so that you can start focusing on being the best follower of Christ you can be.
So today I wanted to talk about a huge misconception that, as far as I can tell, almost everyone seems to think.
The misconception is that Satan is the opposite of God, and therefore His equal. I constantly hear people treating the two as if they are equal in power and competing with each other for our souls. The reality is very different. Satan doesn't even begin to compare to God, he is simply allowed to exist in the same way that we are despite our sins, so that God might save as many of us as possible. Satan gets away with a lot but ultimately is just an annoyance that has already been handled and is just causing as much damage as possible before he goes down for good.
Now as I said, Satan is no equal to God, but to give that some more detail we need to remember that Satan is just a cherubim, one of God's creations. We have all seen or heard things that put Satan in a place of power, as if he actually stands a chance against God. He isn't though, he is just a rebellious annoyance that thinks he should not only be equal to God, but higher than God, and so he spreads that lie all over the place. In reality, he will be thrown down and punished for his sins, he has been allowed to get away with a lot because he is stronger than us, but he is nothing to God.
Another thing that needs to be understood is that Satan has no control at all over Hell. He is always depicted as if he runs the place down there, but the day he sets foot in that place is the end for him. Something that people need to understand is that Satan is here on Earth with us, not sitting below us and visiting us to take our souls. He is here along with his fellow idiots, trying to make sure as many of us go down with him as possible, but we must always remember he has no power over Hell. Satan and Hell are going to be thrown into the lake of fire together, after he is thrown into a pit for 1,000 years.
Satan, as I mentioned, is more powerful than us and directly impacts most things that happen in the world. Unsurprisingly, everything he touches goes horribly wrong but he usually does things by getting us to do it. He constantly convinces us through the world that sin is better for us in some way shape or form, and we, being the idiots we are, actually believe him. He has been doing it since the beginning. Adam and Eve were the first people he convinced to do something stupid when he deceived Eve with his lies and Adam foolishly followed, instead of stepping up to lead and protect his wife.
That really is his only true power; Convincing us to sin with his lies. He infects everything and unfortunately, in many ways, his plans work because we naturally want to deny God. Humans are just generally evil in nature. Despite all of this though, we must always remember that Satan is simply allowed to do things.
In summary, Satan (or one of his many followers) might lie to you and convince you to do a lot of stupid things, but he isn't really powerful and it's always your choice. He doesn't even begin to compare to God, he has no real control over anything aside from what God has allowed for him. We already know how the story ends and it does not go even slightly well for Satan. He is just a petty and arrogant cherub that wants to take as many of us down with him as possible, because he knows he has no chance. By no means does this mean that we should underestimate Satan, but with God on our side, there is just nothing to worry about and never will be.
On a side note, I feel the need to mention that Satan is not some red half goat thing with horns and a pitchfork, he would look like an angel. Please, to everyone who has, stop portraying him as that thing.
I have been hearing people talk about this a lot, this idea that God wants you to focus on Him, so don't worry about relationships or getting married, just wait on God's time. I wanted to talk about this because I think this mindset is incorrect, even though it sounds good on the surface.
The first point I would like to make is the simple fact of how God designed us. We learn in Genesis that Adam was not really complete until Eve was made to be with him.
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. -Genesis 2:18
God designed us to get married. It is better when we have a spouse to support us and do everything with. I know people think this adds limitations to your life and that a spouse takes away attention from God, but that is just not the case, it simply means we will do everything together. It is also worth mentioning that God wants us to love other people, so in a way this is actually putting God first by following that command.
The second point that needs to be made is that just because God doesn't want us worrying about tomorrow, doesn't mean He wants us to sit on our hands and wait for Him to hand us everything. I am not saying to just go out and date a bunch of people. You should still be wise about who you choose to be with and it should always be with the intent to marry, but as things are, people are just rejecting everyone and using God as an excuse to do so. I do not believe God wants that. Quite the opposite, in fact, He wants you to get married because, as previously said, you were designed to be.
The third and most important point I would like to make is that this is a very dangerous type of legalism. It allows people to feel holier while simultaneously ignoring God's will for them, much in the same way the Pharisees did in Jesus's time.
This hasn't been made into a law at churches, but people are made to feel guilty for wanting to get married, as if in doing so they are completely ignoring God. The people causing this guilt get to walk away feeling good about themselves because they are supposedly putting God first by remaining single and pushing others to do the same. I ask you though, if an intent to marry is really such a distraction for people, why then, is it a requirement for pastors to have a wife? The people that have quite literally dedicated their lives to God and teaching His word, shepherding His people, have to get married. Yet, with this mindset that singleness is better for serving God, they should all stay single.
We all need to be very careful when we start pushing this type of thing. We are stressing people out, making them feel like they aren't good enough for wanting something God designed for them. They are being told that, because of that desire, they aren't putting God first. It just isn't true and we should never be putting guilt on a person for doing exactly what God wants for them. This also puts men, who should be the ones initiating a relationship, in a position where they may blame God for not bringing them "The One" when they never acted on the opportunity. This is all very similar to the prosperity gospel and how disappointed people will be when God doesn't make them rich and so on for their works, this mindset creates the same kind of stress. Yes, there are people out there that God has called to be single, but I assure you, they are a minority and they aren't very likely to be interested in marriage to begin with.
Just because something sounds like it is better and more holy doesn't mean it is, so next time someone is expressing interest in getting married one day, support them. Give them advice and help them to be wise about it. Encourage them to date someone who is equally yoked and who also wants to put God first in everything they do. Steer them in the right direction and help them avoid any sins they may become vulnerable to when they start a relationship, but don't make them feel guilty and tell them some nonsense about being called to singleness. God is the one who will call them to singleness, so you don't need to suggest that to them.
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