Sometimes we get into a slump. We aren't motivated, and our lack of self discipline often carries over into our relationship. We aren't going out of our way for the other person like we should. Let's tackle that!
First off, let's not downplay it, sometimes slumps occur when we have a need that's not being met, like adequate sleep time or proper meals. This is probably why it can be common when you have children, as they're high energy and seldom give you a break. There may also be deeper struggles, like depression, that make even the simplest of tasks feel like a huge drain on the mind and body. Overthinking things when you're down doesn't help, but sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to do something for someone else! And there is no cure quite like gratitude.
So, let's start with a little meditation, that is, lovely thoughts about that special person in your life.
*If you have children, consider popping something on for them to watch, or giving them a book or some snacks to distract them for a moment.
Wherever you are, start really thinking on everything you love about your sweetheart.
Any nice memory that comes to mind or positive trait of theirs, just take a couple minutes to think on them positively.
Next, think about something you could do today that would make them happy.
Write it down. It can be as simple as a little surprise, as regular as cooking them timely meals, and as basic as telling them how much you love and appreciate them, just consider the little things that they maybe haven't had from you lately.
If you're starting to feel a bit of energy at the thought of making their day, then get those thoughts into action!
Add to the list of what you'd like to do for them. Win them over with love, respect, and effort. Go get started!
We don't always love and pursue like we should, but there's no reason we can't kick back into gear and express gratitude for them now.