Sometimes we get into a slump. We aren't motivated, and our lack of self discipline often carries over into our relationship. We aren't going out of our way for the other person like we should. Let's tackle that!
First off, let's not downplay it, sometimes slumps occur when we have a need that's not being met, like adequate sleep time or proper meals. This is probably why it can be common when you have children, as they're high energy and seldom give you a break. There may also be deeper struggles, like depression, that make even the simplest of tasks feel like a huge drain on the mind and body. Overthinking things when you're down doesn't help, but sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to do something for someone else! And there is no cure quite like gratitude.
So, let's start with a little meditation, that is, lovely thoughts about that special person in your life.
*If you have children, consider popping something on for them to watch, or giving them a book or some snacks to distract them for a moment.
Wherever you are, start really thinking on everything you love about your sweetheart.
Any nice memory that comes to mind or positive trait of theirs, just take a couple minutes to think on them positively.
Next, think about something you could do today that would make them happy.
Write it down. It can be as simple as a little surprise, as regular as cooking them timely meals, and as basic as telling them how much you love and appreciate them, just consider the little things that they maybe haven't had from you lately.
If you're starting to feel a bit of energy at the thought of making their day, then get those thoughts into action!
Add to the list of what you'd like to do for them. Win them over with love, respect, and effort. Go get started!
We don't always love and pursue like we should, but there's no reason we can't kick back into gear and express gratitude for them now.
When you're at a distance, nothing's better than using video chat!
For this date, choose a movie or show to watch together through streaming services (or if money is tight, you can even watch something on sites like YouTube!) while doing a live video chat on something like Skype or Discord. (Hooray for free services!)
Once you've found what you want to watch, do your best to sync up when you both press play so you can be on the same page. There are some services available now that sync up automatically.
Be sure to mention your favorite and least enjoyed parts of whatever you watched together. Starting with what you liked gives a nice, positive experience, and following that with what you disliked helps the other person to better know you. Movies and shows are a great way to open up a discussion!
It's a day for couples! Lovely and fun! And you... are single.
If this has you down, then here's some stuff to make it a little more fun!
There are some simple solutions for making the day something nice!
1. Make Valentine memes
Believe it or not, it's a pretty fun way to spend Valentine's Day! I used to make some pretty punny memes when I was single and share them with friends online. It's simple, but it gives you something to focus on that could give others a good laugh, too!
2. Make a Valentine themed date box for a couple you know
One of our date ideas is to actually make a date box for another couple, but you can do this while single, too! If you want you can get some friends or family in on it, but just making a gift like this for someone else and then presenting it to them for Valentine's Day could be a really nice experience!
3. Ask someone to be your Valentine
Finally, you could just choose to make Valentine's Day the day of days to ask someone you know to be your Valentine this year. If you don't have someone you're interested in, then stick to the other suggestions or make your own tradition! But if you do happen to have a crush, what better time to ask them out? Just don't go trying to get a date for no reason other than not wanting to be alone on Valentine's Day. Relationships on this level should always be taken very seriously!
All five matter, so let's make them happen!
You've probably heard of the five love languages;
Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.
Why not put all five of them into practice?
Sit down with your sweetheart and write out the five love languages on a sheet of paper, then ask for your dear to fill out what way they would like to receive these from you this week. Allow them to take their time to think about it. If a day is needed, that's fine! It is to fulfill their desires, after all. You can mention you might not be able to meet every need, but you will do your absolute best!
Right after it's filled out, find something on the list you can do right then--and do it!
After making up my list I found that not only are these films completely clear of sex and nudity, they're also really clean in every other department! (and no less enjoyable for it!)
1. Cinderella (2015 live Disney version)
This is likely the best take on the classic fairy tale. It is a stunning romantic drama with good character development. Very clean and very much recommended!
About a failing marriage, Fireproof hits some pretty heavy topics, but you'll never see anything inappropriate. The movie focuses around a man on the edge of divorce who receives a book called The Love Dare from his father. He tries to follow it day by day to win back his wife.
3. The Matchbreaker
This romantic comedy is about a guy who actually gets hired to break up couples, but ends up running into his childhood crush along the way. It's a great choice for just about any couple to watch!
Hope this helps with your romantic movie watching!
Valentine's Day at a distance? Yes!
Make sure to share street addresses for this date!
Each of you either buy card kits or gather some craft supplies for making cards, just like kids would!
Start a call on speaker or use a webcam to communicate. Being able to video chat is typically ideal, but this date can be fun with voices alone since it adds a surprise aspect!
Both of you gather your card making supplies and begin writing out Valentines for the other person. Talk about the process as you do it!
At the end of it, when your cards are filled out, mail them to the other person! Happy Valentine's Day!
Marriage is an absolutely beautiful thing! For some of us, the wedding or what followed might have been less beautiful and more stressful than it ever should have been. If you feel like you had a rough start, it's never too late for the happily ever after!
Similar to restarting your day or beginning a new year, if you feel like your wedding memories aren't quite what you hoped for, it may be best to start fresh! Consider a Vow Renewal for you and your spouse!
This is not saying your vows ever expired! Not even close! Marriage by design lives as long as you do. This is, rather, to say that you are just as thrilled to give yourself to the love of your life now as you were back then.
Maybe you had a very small wedding and you wanted to have a huge one. Well, you can start planning the big event now! Make it into everything you wanted it to be! Have a planner and be extravagant!
Or maybe, and more likely, your wedding was fine but there was just unneeded stress from people in your life the days leading up to (and even on) your big day. There are plenty of circumstances that could steal a bit of the joy from your big day. If something like that is the case, try this:
An intimate setting with just you, your spouse, and God.
Say your vows before one another and Him, because you're already married so this is all that is needed. Set it up as a day for just the two of you, no invitations needed. You may consider setting up a camera to record your private event! After which, eat out somewhere nice, and even have yourselves a wedding night where you just really enjoy one another! And if you'd like, presents are always an option, but the biggest thing is the mental reset and starting fresh with the person who means the world to you.
A date 1 year in the making!
For this date, you'll need a large box or chest to store things in!
On New Year's Day, you and your special someone start filling a box with things to make up a date with. Things like wrapped gifts and cards for each other as well as games you can play together, movies you can watch, or candles you can light are all good ideas! Continue adding to the box all throughout the year, but don't go digging through it to see how full it is or what's inside! Just add your items and leave it alone. Wrapping things helps prevent the other person from getting too curious and spoiling things.
On New Year's Eve, take the box of goodies and set it out, then at midnight (or in the morning on New Year's Day,) open up the box and explore its contents together!
If you both enjoyed the process, start a new box for next year!
When the good packing snow blankets the streets, it's the perfect time for a snow date!
Start off by setting out two mugs with cocoa mix inside on the counter. (Alternatively you could set things up for making tea if you're just not a hot cocoa fan!)
Place a kettle on the stove, leaving it off for now and switching it on when you get back! (even if you're only going as far as your own backyard!)
What does one do on a snow date? There are the usual options;
And then there are some more unique ideas. I recommend gathering buckets you'd use for building sandcastles and building a snow castle! You can also mix it up and build fort walls, then have a snowball fight from behind them as you try to take down your darling's defenses!
Snow leaves a lot of options, so bundle up and go have some fun with it! When you're ready to call it a day, return home to some hot cocoa and cuddle up next to each other as you reflect.
It's almost Christmas time, which means many neighborhoods will have lovely displays outside!
With your dearest, take a walk around town at night, looking at Christmas lights. This date is best when there's snow!
Too cold and icy? Or are you not able to do the walk? A slow drive with Christmas music on can also be romantic!
End the evening inside with some hot cocoa, tea, or coffee, while Christmas music plays softly in the background. Talk all about the Christmas holiday and enjoy it to the fullest together! Also share some of your best memories from a Christmas in the past, then memories since times together, and what you imagine for future holidays.