I adore journals, dairies, and notebooks! I like browsing through them in the store as I think about the many possible uses for each one. There are a lot of uses for a writer such as myself, but today I want to share with you some of the ways I've used them in my relationship, which you can try, too!
Back when my husband Andrew and I were dating long distance, I bought myself a beautiful journal so I would be able to record the day we first met in person. I wrote down that special day and all the good times we had together in the months there after.
It's been great to have each and every giddy moment written in ink and set upon my bookshelf! I can read over those memories and reminisce again and again.
I highly recommend this if you're going through a special time in your life that you always want to remember!
This one is sort of like a gratitude journal, but it revolves around my husband. I don't write in it every single day, but sometimes when he gives me something or does something I really like, I jot it down to reflect on later. (I also write things I find attractive about him on particular days, both character and physical traits!)
This is something that really makes me appreciate my husband, as well as feel loved and appreciated myself. Now typically this is going to be for married couples, and you would write this privately, but don't sweat it if your spouse finds it. Mine did, but it made him pretty happy to read my entries about him. Once he started there was no stopping him! (but it was nice getting a great big hug afterward!)
What You Are Journal
For my husband's birthday I started a very personal present a couple months beforehand. It was a little black journal which I filled from A to Z with his many positive traits!
Example of how you could fill this if you were to write one:
"You are Charming.
From your smile to the way you talk, you're incredibly charming!"
Next up, this one is on my journal to-do list! A Generosity Journal is used for recording what you're putting into your relationship. If you buy a nice gift or do a good service for your spouse you can record it here along with their reaction and how it made you feel. The goal is to fill the journal, so the idea behind it is you'll be even more motivated to give to your spouse. I personally like the idea of doing secret acts of service to make their day! (Side note, I'm opposed to keeping secrets in marriage, communication should always be open, but I do make exceptions for surprise gifts and acts of kindness.)
Dream Journal (but not the sleepy kind!)
Last one is for the dreamer! A Dream Journal is for writing future plans, goals, and ideas. It's like a bucket list for your relationship. For me, it's not just about places to go or accomplishments to achieve, but also the self-improvements I can make which will have the added benefit of helping my relationship thrive. This journal helps set clear goals to pursue.
That's all of the journals for this post! Have you tried any of these before? If you have, why not share your experience in the comment section? If not, please share which journal idea you like most!
So many choices, where should you go on that first date? Are you nervous about it? Then this date idea will be perfect since you get to sit down!
Go see a movie!
Seeing a movie is ideal for the first date, regardless of if this is someone you're just meeting or have known for a while now.
You spend a good amount of time watching it, it provides a topic for conversation, and it leaves little room for awkwardness! (unless of course you pick a really awkward movie...)
Should you choose to go and watch a movie together, take note!
What do they like to drink? What did they think of the film? Did they like it? Dislike it? Was there anything in particular that stood out for them? Do they seem timid about sharing their opinion? Movies open the way for easy conversation!
On a very serious note, and this is off the subject of movies! Regardless of if you're in a new relationship or just haven't gotten around to saying it, if you're not able or planning to get married for a long period of time, whatever the reason may be, you should clarify that as soon as possible. Some people are far more anxious to get married than others. They may look at it as something they just can't put off for a few more years. Don't cause unnecessary stress by not being upfront with your intentions!
Okay, that's everything! And if for whatever reason seeing a movie is out of the question, feel free to browse for other date ideas! Maybe something a bit more unique is just the thing for you two!